June 20, 2008

cheater?

Once a cheater, always a cheater?

129 comments:

Neeku said...

I would say ... once a Terror always a Terror !

:(

aneri_masi said...

not at all!

Hiren said...

nopes ...

I have cheated a few times during my skool/college examinations :)

that doesnt make me a cheater for life time or does it ???

Solitaire said...

@ Neeku,

How did that replace the word "cheater"?

Solitaire said...

@ Aneri,

Care to elaborate?

Solitaire said...

@ Hiren,

Surely you know we are not talking about examinations, right?

Keshi said...

I hv NEVER CHEATED in my life so far. I didnt hv the need to cheat when I was in school..cos yeah I was a nerd, not by choice tho :). And when it came to my r'ships, CHEATING never played a part. Tho others hv cheated me big time.


I believe if u cheat once, u may not hv the fear/guilt to cheat again.

But I also believe that some ppl may cheat and learn from the experience, and never cheat again. It all depends on the individual.


Keshi.

Hiren said...

i resorted to the convenience of interpreting inadequate information to self advantage :)

Ankur said...

Not Necessary!!!

Ankur said...

rather i would love to give him/her a second chance!!!

and also the fact that the circumstances may differ and the person may change, we all think of killing some anima or human some day but that doesnt makes us a killer!!!

Karthik S said...

I dont think so...

You cant categorize a person based on a few incidents...

There are so many chances for change in attitude, in behaviour ,in lifestyle...

someone else may cheat him/her before he/she does, he/she may realise....

g-man said...

once a cheater, always a mo********ing a$$1-1013 is more like it

Ashish said...

True Indeed...Been there experienced that!!

Urv said...

If someone has not cheated before, it does that mean he/she will never cheat. Similarly if a person cheats once, probably it does not mean that he/she will always cheat.

(I seriously don't know what I was thinking when I wrote that. I think I should start my weekend this very moment)

comfortably numb said...

not @ all...change is d essence of life n variety it's spice :D
thrs alwayz room for change!!!

maverick said...

nopes..dont agree...tho i used to make use of that art during exams :D

Nitin said...

To large extent it depends upon the situation, but still one more chance should be given..( with 50-50 outlook)

rantravereflect said...

once a 'chettah', aways a 'cheetah'-can't be a spotted tiger can it?

(btw cheetah is the cheater read with an accent;))

MAN IN PAINTING said...

It the cheater did it for survival..well,definitely will cheat again.
It it was done for fun it depends on the reaction..
If it was done methodically,with a plan,it may or may not work again
If we feel cheated and the cheater never knows it,then it will never repeat.
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Preeti said...

I really dont know...i mean really really dont know...it just hurts toooo much when it happens...i dno whether to trust again...same person or another...and so im back to...i dno!

humbl devil said...

naah...
i hardly have ever cheated till now...guess i will have to learn that art...:D

Ghost Particle said...

no way! u cheat once for a better something, then you stay with the better something. for a reasonable while...

Nirmal said...

cheater..cheated....

i dont know wat they mean...can anyone define please????

rayshma said...

i don't know. and i shouldn't generalize.. but i would never be able to trust someone with a record of cheating.
i consider it a habit... like smoking. old habits are hard to give up.

carolinagal said...

Not necessarily.

vishesh said...

once alive always alive?

rahul said...

depends a lot on the other person!!!

Ria said...

No i wudnt say tht!some ppl change too....everybody shud get a fair chance.

I Walk Alone!!! said...

I disagree. People change. Every person deserves an opportunity to get better in life.

What matters is whether the person repents his/her wrong doing and wants to avoid doing any such wrong in future.

-Shekhar

lukkydivz said...

Depends !!

ceedy said...

I dont think its fair to generalize.
This like any other issue has many layers.

The "terror" is not a terminal disease but for the sufferer it can become one....as doubt has been instilled.

Solitaire said...

@ Hiren,

Good for you!

KP! said...

Well I dont think so!

sometimes, you just gotta do what u gotta do!

what can i do if i see hot girl...cant close my eyes huh?....lol

Nirmal said...

@rantra...

heheeh..is it in mallu...

Stupidosaur said...

It all depends on that particular 'cheaterCock' eh?

P said...

Don't really know the answer but I will definitely have trouble trusting someone with such a past record. To me cheating is a sign of weakness and I wouldn't know how to assess whether the person has overcome such weakness.

Solitaire said...

@ Vishesh,

So you comparing being alive with cheating?

Tcch tcch!

Solitaire said...

@ Vishesh,

How about...

"once dead, always dead?"

Solitaire said...

@ Nirmal,

Ya..that's a good idea..
Maybe my next question will be..

"define cheating"

Solitaire said...

@ Ceedy,


So....once a doubter, always a doubter?

Solitaire said...

@ Keshi,

To cut a long story short..."it depends".

Solitaire said...

@ Ankur,

Thanks for letting me know that when u kill something it does not make you a killer. Try using this argument in court after you murder someone. It might just work..or maybe not.

Solitaire said...

@ G-man,

Itna gussa?

d SINNER!!! said...

on a serious thought-NO...


and on a funny one...woah! at least they have brains...

Solitaire said...

@ Karthik,

aha! So are you implying that when a cheater is cheated on, they are set straight?

Solitaire said...

@ Ashish,

OUCH! Bad experience..

Anonymous said...

I say it all depends on the individual and the relation you have with him/her.If he/she is a close friend or a family member, then I guess I would give him/her a second chance. Because, I believe its human tendency to act very possessive in certain situations and some people try to amend their behavior once they realize and understand the pain that they have caused
-'P'

Me-too said...

Not necessarily. Everybody deserves a second chance.

Princess Mia said...

well if u've cheated once nothing will stop u from cheating again....but then u never know some people learn from their mistakes

Ghost Particle said...

did i do something...or didnt do something...? :(

Ankur said...

**Thanks for letting me know that when u kill something it does not make you a killer.

Dodo, did i say after killing, i said thinking of killing sm1!!!

read it again... :D

g-man said...

yea...apparently i was cheated upon even before we broke up. and i didn't even bloody know! is liye itna gussa!!!!!!!

Rahul.. in the city of dreamz said...

I would say... once a cheater .. always thought of as a cheater...

Everyone deserves the benefit of doubt and a second chnace..

what say?

Iceman said...

yup...

Deepti said...

dunno about cheaters but Once cheated .... always gullible though ..

ceedy said...

did you get my earlier comment to your question?

Neeku said...

@ Sol: Sorry for the late reply... the reason why I told once a terror always a terror.... because ...

The ordeal one has to go through when someone cheats on your trust and good will... the whole thing is so dreadful ! .. its almost like someone... being emotional terriorist to annoy you and harm you with your feelings...

This has nothing to do with your post... its just someone I had know so well... sort of is being a terror right now in my life... and so said such words...

:(

Anjuli said...

not always...

I Walk Alone!!! said...

You have been tagged!!!

Bubbly Vodka said...

No. People do learn sometimes.

AmitL said...

Not really-but,yes,once a liar,always a liar.:)

Shruti said...

yes yes.. cant change the past na

Compassion Unlimitted said...

A cheat Is a Cheat Is a Cheat Is A cheat..na I dont think so..Past tense exist in these reformed ones
TC
CU

Friendly Stranger said...

Nope! Time can change people.....

Ghost Particle said...

WHERE ARE YOU!

-[a]- said...

Mostly, yes.

Keshi said...

yup Sol, it depends.

Keshi.

Hemanth Potluri said...

hmmm....not sure..abt it :)lol...can change the mind after a certain period...

Solitaire said...

@ urv,
It does get easier to cheat again once you have done it. Practice makes perfect you know. So maybe someone who has cheated once may cheat again.

Solitaire said...

@ comfortably numb,
Even someone who wants to cheat may say the same! That they did it for change!

Solitaire said...

@ ceedy,
Which one are you talking about?

Keshi said...

Ghosty!

**WHERE ARE YOU!

how come u dun ever search me like that? :(

u hvnt even been to my blog lately. no worries :) it must be so boring now hehe.




Sol hot new post plz...it's Monday sweetz. :) I just love ur S&S posts!


Keshi.

Ankur said...

yeh hello maine abhi padha warna ek baar toh socha ki abduction ho gaya!!! :P
hehe

Aneesh said...

Nah, never.

AaYuShI said...

Not at all.
People improve.
They always do!!

Am In Trance said...

That Depends How You Define The Word 'Cheater'..
Its all in the other person's mind..
U Think U Think.. U Don't U Don't..

We can't just decide things based on one happening... Otherwise there'll be other examples too..

"Once A Killer.. Always A Killer.."
"Once A Lier.. Always A Lier.."
"Once A Lover.. Always A Lover.."

Is That True ???
:)
TakeCare..

AaYuShI said...

On flipsides..certain people never learn from their mistakes.

So its like..MAYBE a cheater once..will be a cheater forever!
Who knows..depends on the individual.

Solitaire said...

@aneesh
Once a cheater never a cheater?

Solitaire said...

@a
Your answer surely is short and sweet!

Solitaire said...

@ neeku,
Sorry that's happening with you. Just hang in there!

Solitaire said...

@ aayushi,

Which one do you think happens more?

Solitaire said...

@ am in trance,

The label alwys remains, does not it? It does not matter whether they cheat again or not. What say?

Solitaire said...

@ me too,

Twice a cheater, always a cheater?

Solitaire said...

@ hemanth,

What does your mind say now?

Am In Trance said...

:)
Haan Yaar..
Daag To Reh Hi Jaata Hai..
But... Chaand Mein Bhi Toh Daag Hota Hai Na....
N' Still People Love It....
What Say ??

Solitaire said...

@ maverick,

Very soon people might come out with classes on the 'art of cheating'

Me-too said...

@ SOL:
"Twice a cheater, always a cheater?"
I'd say may be or may be not but he/she cannot be trusted further!

Solitaire said...

@ am in trance,

I say... Very poetic!

Solitaire said...

@ rantra,

Good one!

Solitaire said...

@ nitin,

What's a 50 50 outlook?

Solitaire said...

@ man in painting,

Wow! You have it all chalked out! Thank you for stopping by.

Solitaire said...

@ preeti,

Seems like you have experienced being cheated on. True? Horrible feeling!

Solitaire said...

@ humble,

Ask maverick about the art of cheating during exams!

Solitaire said...

@ ghost,

Very funny! Hmph!

Solitaire said...

@ Ankur,

Kaunsa hello?

Solitaire said...

@ Keshi,

Sorry keshi. Been slightly busy. But a new post is up on my monday, your tuesday...

Solitaire said...

@ Ghost,

Sorry dear. Am available now. Was very busy over the weekend.

Solitaire said...

Friendly,

"can change people"...will it definitely change people?

Solitaire said...

@ Compassion,

What will a past cheat be called in the present? A reformed cheat?

Solitaire said...

@ Amit,

A cheater lies too!!

Solitaire said...

@ Shruti,

Yeah we can never change the past.Does that mean that one mistake and we are doomed for life?

Solitaire said...

@ Bubbly,

"Sometimes" is a key word...

Solitaire said...

@ Anjuli,

True. Maybe sometimes.

Solitaire said...

@ Deepti,

Such a sad plight, isnt it?

Solitaire said...

@ I walk alone,

Tag done a few weeks ago!

Solitaire said...

@ Iceman,

Bus itna?

Solitaire said...

@ Rayshma,

Wow. Never saw cheating like a habit though it makes a lotta sense!

Solitaire said...

@ Rahul,

Which other person? How?

Solitaire said...

@ Carolinagal,

Thanks CG!

Solitaire said...

@ Ria,

Would you trust someone to be your husband after they have cheated on someone else?

Solitaire said...

@ I walk alone,

What if the person repents but compulsively cheats?

Solitaire said...

@ Lukky,

On what?

Solitaire said...

@ KP,

Is looking at a hot girl cheating???????????

Solitaire said...

@ Stupidosaur,

Haha! That statement took me to elementary school.

Solitaire said...

@ D sinner,

You dont need brains to cheat. You need brains to not get caught!

Solitaire said...

@ P,

But taali ek haath se nahi bajti na.

Solitaire said...

@ P,(anonymous)

You would not give a second chance to someone who is not close to you?

Solitaire said...

@ Ankur,

I have no problem with you thinking about cheating. It is the act that bothers me.

Solitaire said...

@ G-man,

OH NO!!! That sucks big time!

Solitaire said...

@ Rahul,

Ya..but what if they screw up after the second chance?

Solitaire said...

@ Princess,

Ya...we never know!

Keshi said...

oyeah I forgot ur Mon is my Tue :) tnxx Sol!

Keshi.

Nitin said...

50-50 outlook is probability that he/she may cheat again is 50% .. so that it won't hurt badly...(coz getting second time cheated with someone whom one trusted will hurt deep ...so sort of damage control)

Ankur said...

"Hello" between Update and About Me!!! :)

SambY said...

once a cheater always tought to be a cheater...even if he may not be.... which leads hi m to believe he is...or to make him think..why not everybody doesnt trust me anyways...let me hit back...and u criminal is born

Ghost Particle said...

k :x

Satish Bolla said...

i don't agree. good can become bad and bad can morph to good. time changes everything.

Stupidosaur said...

Yeah. But its an elementary school sentence with an 'adult' perspective here.

Bubbly Vodka said...

Yes it is THE key word. And that is why it is there! Well, atleast we can hope.b