June 12, 2008

Worry

You know how someone says, "Don't worry. Everything will be fine." when you are going nuts about something?

How do they know?

68 comments:

rayshma said...

it's one of the truest cliches. it's universally true. for all - people & situations.

Ankur said...

I dont know they know or not... and its not important, but for me, they want to convey that they are around. They want to give me some confidence and they want to c me smile!!!

Isnt that great n gud enugh!!!

:)

Cheers!!!

Sutta said...

They are a bunch of smartass! Who know it'll be fine. Coz it happened with THEM.

Anonymous said...

Because we all know that good times follows bad and vice versa.

Pavi!!!! said...

They know 'coz eventually everything will be fine!Like Ray-Ray said, its the universal truth applicable to anything n everything!

Me-too said...

They dont know anything. Its just that they care for you and want you to feel better.

Samy said...

lol.. its tht person's way of telling you "Dont worry everything will be fine, and IF NOT, you always have me by your side, to make it up to you"

Cheers

Samy

ceedy said...

I guess nobody except the YOU involved knows how it will be - it just a "shot in the arm" kinda statement to make you feel better.

Also it can be seen as the faith this person has that you can do it...

and "everything will be fine" is an underlying theme of business of astrology....

Keshi said...

I dun like it when ppl say that to me when the chips are down, but I say that to others when they're worrying hehe.


I guess its used to make us feel better, to give hope, to assure that somehow bad times will pass too. Cos happiness n sadness follow one another in life. So those who say that do know that this too shall pass.


you've just got to hang in there somehow..thats what it means.


Keshi.

τ ħ€ ĐάЎđяёάmёя said...

may be becoz they had been in one

and may be they kno with the experience..every day is not the mayhem day :)

but I say becoz I feel if they had lost the hope..I shud be rekindling the hope...

jus that ..nuffin else

Ashu said...

They tryin to cheer us up....cos they care for us or may be just for formality.

whatever may be but they shoudl be acknowledged for their caring..

Ashu said...

and how r ur eggzams going ?

Ashu said...

somethin for u at my blog...

Crimson Feet said...

Because everything being fine or 'not fine' is only a matter of perspective. They are helping you build the right perspective.

At the end of the day, if you really believe it, everything IS fine!

humbl devil said...

heheheh

this has many reasons...

some people believe in hope and want you to, too..

some people just dont know buit still say these magic words...

it's the best thing to say when they have to escape from providing a concrete solution...

p.s.
believe me if you start believing like them, it works wonders...
my dame's motto...
jo hua hai acche ke liye hua hai aur jo hoga acche ke liye hi hoga...

Chakoli said...

Ahhhh

as everything ends with "happy ending"....

agar nahi...
to picture abhi baki hain mere dost;-))

Iceman said...

Hahaha...

I never say that...
I say... "Oh Fuck... U r doomed!"

Rahul.. in the city of dreamz said...

Actually thats the least ( and the only) thing that they can say!!

btw.. blog updated long back!!

Soham Shah said...

because everybody knows that after every sunset, there certainly be a sun-rise soon ..

Anjuli said...

but it really helps....

Vrij said...

Whether they know or not.. its generally true that a lot of things can get smoothened out if one smoothens his/her thinking.. gets the wrinkles off the forehead and approaches the task with a cool and collected mind.. And saying all will b fine with a gentle touch/pat and a smile is the best way to do so.

Stupidosaur said...

They say "everyTHING" will be fine. Not every PERSON (including 'you').

THINGS are always fine. Its the tendency of persons to go nuts over things thinking they are not fine.

**Run! The philosopher in stupidosaur has woken up!**

D said...

They don't know. They just say it to make you feel better.

Nitin said...

See we also do the same.. when we r in that position .. coz we don't have any thing else to say.. .

U can't say nothing goona fine..

And u can't come out saying nothing coz in this world words are considered to be only way to express u r feelings...

Hiren said...

I too say these to my friends at times .... when there is nothing I can do to change the circumstances ... but by sayin this you try to give them a calming reassurance .... they know that you care. Actually its not these words but the genuinity with which they are said that works ... :)

Secondly, these words should be said only when one cant do anything to help .... if one can then he/she shud do that rather than pacifying with words :)

g-man said...

i used to say that to make ppl feel better. then i realised ppl want to feel better even if they know something bad is coming. so i usually tell them that life's shit, and to be thankful that they aren't in deeper shit, but to prepare themselves anyways because they never know when the shit's gonna hit the fan. i can't stop using cliches today. hmmm...

d SINNER!!! said...

coz they have been thru the same shit sm time...or the other...

Bubbly Vodka said...

Coz it's a universal rule. People just tend to forget it when they're busy with the worrying and need to be reminded.

Macadamia The Nut said...

Who cares if they know or not :D Sure sounds good at the time. It makes more sense that those ridiculous fruit flavored stickers. There you know you can never eat them no matter what..but here there's some semblance of hope, no? ;)

Ria said...

he he thts generally said to pacify someone! V definitely cant say tht "dont worry thinks r goin to remain screwed up!" So this is the best possible way to make tht person feel better. :)

Cinder-Single said...

They don't know at all unless they have been through it, and different people handle different issues many different ways!!! Sooooooooo

They don't really know, They can just be there for you!!

Ne.

Deepali said...

Well I guess sometimes it is the only thing someone else can say. They obviously can't know and it might be the farthest thing from the truth. It can get annoying but at the end of the day it's someone trying to console me or help me get control so I don't say anything.

But usually thats the way I feel things turn out so it wouldn't bother me as much.

aneri_masi said...

They don't know, but they also don't see what you're seeing, don't feel what you're feeling.

Nitin said...
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Solitaire said...

@ Rayshma,

If only people remembered that in their times of distress...

Solitaire said...

@ Ankur,

It is important to me! I want to know how they know..and if they don't know then they should not tell me! :)

Ya..I know that is their way of consoling me.

Solitaire said...

@ Sutta,

My! Why so bitter?!

Solitaire said...

@ Anonymous,

Do they really? Each and every time?

Solitaire said...

@ Pavi,

I know of so many of my clients who are not fine and have suffered from years of anguish! I have seen too much sorrow to believe that.

Solitaire said...

@ Me-too,

Yup!!

Solitaire said...

@ Samy,

I have experienced that people only like saying things but do not really practice what they preach.

Solitaire said...

@ Ceedy,

Heheheh..that last sentence cracked me up!

Solitaire said...

@ Keshi,

Yeah but its so hard to believe them when they say it.

Solitaire said...

@ Day dreamer,

I dunno!! Its one thing to rekindle hope but another to give false hopes.

Solitaire said...

@ Ashu,

Ok...acknowledged but not believed...

Solitaire said...

@ Crimson,

Not true! For someone who just lost both parents in a car accident...if they are told, "everything will be fine"..it is quite hard for them to believe that!

It is truly not fine in the moment!

Solitaire said...

@ Humble,

That is my motto too but I still find it hard to believe in that moment when someone else says it to me!

Solitaire said...

@ Chakoli,

SRK ka dialogue mat bolo mere blog par pleaseeeeeeee!

Solitaire said...

@ Iceman,

WHAT! You are MEAN!

Solitaire said...

@ Rahul,

Yep logically speaking, you are right!

Solitaire said...

@ Soham,

What if you are blind because of what happened and unable to see the sunrise?

Solitaire said...

@ Anjuli,

Not me!

Solitaire said...

@ Nitin,

Two blogs posted within a span of a few hours. Therefore, comment count is low on this. :)

Thanks for your comment. It reminded me that I need to respond to people!

I hope they come back and read them!

Solitaire said...

@ Aneri,

Very right!

Solitaire said...

@ Deepali,

Yes. If everything does not turn out fine...then I get annoyed too!

Solitaire said...

@ Cinder

Sometimes they are not even there for you. They just say it and disappear!

Solitaire said...

@ Ria,

Hahahah! No thats not what I implied!

Solitaire said...

@ Macadamia,

I would rather that they offer me chocolate than say those words!

Solitaire said...

@ Bubbly,

Its not a universal rule. Just because we personally don't know people for who things never got better, we think that all's well!

Solitaire said...

@ D sinner,

Sometimes they have not and yet say it!

Solitaire said...

@ G-man,

Yeah that's more realistic I would say!

Solitaire said...

@ Hiren,

Agree with the second part of your comment. No point just pacifying. Some action needs to take place. Things just dont get alright on their own!

Nitin said...

sorry...........

Solitaire said...

@ Nitin,

I would prefer that they buy me Mac and Cheese to show me that they care than use pacifying words which might hold no meaning.

Solitaire said...

@ D,

Correct! You echo my thoughts!

Solitaire said...

@ Stupidosaur,

Hahah!! I like the philosopher in you!

Solitaire said...

@ Vrij,

Maybe. But I never believe it when people tell me that.

Solitaire said...

@ Nitin,

Sorry? Kyon bhai?