June 25, 2008

Marriage

They often say....

Marry a man who loves you more than you love him.

What do men and women have to say about this?

143 comments:

Keshi said...

Good one on my bday Sol, haha!


**Marry a man who loves you more than you love him.

I dun think anyone can possibly love someone else MORE than they love themselves.

Cos I believe that it's an inherent human trait to love ourselves the most first.

Besides I dun want a man to love me in such a suffocating manner either. I wont call that Love anyways...maybe Greed?


I never really believed in that quote Sol. :)


Keshi.

Soham Shah said...

I will say:

Marry a girl who loves you more than you love her !!

I did that only !!

Alok said...

I'm gonna sell Love Calculators now.

Prakhar said...

I say its correct..but love should be there!

D said...

I say, it's true!

Nirmal said...

fairytale dialogues.....

gals fall for this..

Nirmal said...

@keshi..

I dun think anyone can possibly love someone else MORE than they love themselves.

mother loves their baby more than anything...than her life..

dont u think so???

Solitaire said...

@ Keshi,

Just because a man loves you more than you love him, it does not really mean that it is in a suffocating manner. And vice versa.

Love and enmeshment do not really go hand in hand all the time.

Solitaire said...

@ Soham,

And how did you discover that you love her lesser than she loves you? I hope she does not read this statement!

Solitaire said...

@ Alok,

Yeah really..they already might have one online. Did you check?

Solitaire said...

@ Nirmal,

What is so fairy tale about it? Either a man loves you or he does not..right?

Ankur said...

@Sneha

Well... not necessary true, sometimes its not necessary that you get that or rather most of the times!!!
and btw... we man do think the same, so what will happen if they both think the same... A War of Love!!!

I personally dont believe in this, love isnt necessary for the sign of happiness... wud rather go with, be with someone with whom u feel happy!!! :)

U r a Shrek, so u know how many times we run after the mirage... Love.. Utopia it is, some achieve it, most dont!!!

After 10 years of marriage someone someday realises that he doesnt love her anymore... 10 years back he married thinking that she loves her more than anyone, even him!!!
and he loved here too... Now with the situation changin and environmental factors playin a crucial role, that love has become a liability!!!

I always wondered hw ppl change, with times!!!

I would love to marry a girl who can be happy with me, and if i can be happy with her!!!
Love is something which is a feeling, not true everytime, would love to love and being loved, but this doesnt holds true for me...

and yet as a human i say, i will love her (whosoever now) more than i have loved anyone and i can love anyone... cant break the relationship ever for any damn reason!!!
I feel it... :)

****Marry a man who loves you more than you love him.

and taking this into consideration, most men love u more than u love them... will u marry any of them???

Cheers!!!

Ankur said...

@Keshi

**I dun think anyone can possibly love someone else MORE than they love themselves.

First time in ages i dont agree with you!!!

U love urself, no doubt, but more than anyone else u love, this is an over statement!!!

You cant kill you for you, but you can kill yourself for others!!!

:)

Cheers!!!

Solitaire said...

@ Ankur,

Let's get some facts straight.

I am NOT a "SHREK" and don't look like one either!

Secondly, yes...if everyone starts thinking that way, then there will be no marriages for there is no way to prove that one loves the other more.
"Swear on me" and "jump off the train for me" and all that is too filmy and dramatic!

If love is utopia..so is our quest for happiness. For some love=happiness and for others, a marriage without love is futile.

Yes, love after ten years may disappear but we cannot live in the future. In the present, would you marry someone who loves you more or would you marry someone you love but does not love you back?

And hello? Who are the men who love me more than I love them? Show me one at least and I will think about it!

maverick said...

umm...true :D

Ankur said...

ok ok...

1) Ok... this is the first time u have said u rnt!!!
gussa kyon mujh par :(

but yeh dont look like one either kya tha... cant shrek's look beautiful and innocent!!! :D


2) agreed completely...
give me ur head too!!! :P

3) agreed complete
both are utopia, but happiness is still achieveable!!! i think... may be i m wrong, love becomes a mirage sometimes!!!

dont know yaar... for me both have become mirage for now!!!
so u r true!!! :D

dont i sound too confused on this!!! :P

but not always true that marriage without love is futile, most indian marriages happen in this way... isnt!!! :)


4) **In the present, would you marry someone who loves you more or would you marry someone you love but does not love you back?

but i never said that... i just say that her loving me is important, but more than i love her not necessarily!!
The one i used to love, loved me more than i love her... but again the outcome isnt marriage!!
So, we cant hold this true vica versa too!!!


5) **And hello? Who are the men who love me more than I love them? Show me one at least and I will think about it!

look around and u may find one!!! :)


Cheers!!!

Alok said...

Solitaire,

Bleh. Those are useless.

A few months, I'll provide you with real ones!

Do I hear cash registers? $$$$

Keshi,

"Cos I believe that it's an inherent human trait to love ourselves the most first."

I completely agree.

If you Love yourself truly, you are truly capable of Love outside of you.

And if someone loves you truly, he/she will let you be free.

Nirmal,

A mother Loves her child because it embodies her. Her emotions, her values, her own self. It is because the mother loves herself truly, that she loves her child truly. Because to her, the child is more important than anything else outside of her. So if she didn't Love herself, how would she love her child?

The bottom line is: Love is not an ethereal thing that it is taken to be. Love puts the self first.

When I say I Love something, it is the "I" that comes first.

Vrij said...

In theory u may be looking at something very ideal.. but pray tell me how are u going to find out who loves the other more?

By the number of flowers he gives her? Or the number of gifts she gifts him? Or maybe the number of times one pays the bill?

No Sol.. I do not think its practical enuf.. maybe we shud just be happy if both love each other and not put a rating onto each one's love..

Nirmal said...

***Either a man loves you or he does not..***

this is wat happens in reality..

but a man shud love u more than him,
this is fairy tale lines..

Nirmal said...

or

a man shud love only me and not anyother gal..

u r asking 4 too much..hehehehe

***okay one thing is fixed , i will die single**

hehehe

Iceman said...

hahahahahahahaha....

no comments...
let me sit back and watch the fun...

Preeti said...

Nope I diont think so...Too much of anythin aint good...A balance, just the right amount, that's what is required..!

Princess Mia said...

ah, just recently I wrote abt the similar stuff on my blog love vs logic

*Marry a man who loves you more than you love him.

One cannot love someone else unless they love themself abv all

whats yru take on that eh?

humbl devil said...

definitely...as long as you also love him for him and just not because he loves ya...
it aint a competition...this love...

Sam said...

Isn't "love" the only thing important?? :D

Aneesh said...

if we really LOVE someone, we will never say someone else's love is greater than ours. We think we love/loved/will love more than anyone else can. Then how can we expect someone to love us more than we love them?

vishesh said...

ok donno maybe all the girls whom i like should answer this,then i will answer :)

Aneesh said...

@ankur
"You cant kill you for you"
of course, you can, that's called suicide, when u want to save yourself from facing the world or for someother reason you'll suicide.

Aneesh said...

@keshi
Happy B'day

Aneesh said...

@soham

Hope she won't put the same thing in some other blog

Ankur said...

@Aneesh

**of course, you can, that's called suicide

thanks for the enlightenment bhai!!! :P
have passed my graducation and PG too!!! :P
heheh

n btw... the point of emphasis is that it isnt tat easy... but for others u actually make an attempt sometimes!!! :)

not me though to clarify!!! :P

ceedy said...

How can you gauge this?
Cant affection sometimes be mistaken as love?
And if any one of the partner is in this mode of more or less...then either they are sad feeling that he/she does not love me enough or the person who feels is loving more can once in a while get upset and blurt out - you dont love me enough do you?

Expectation to measure love is according to me anti-love. It more like a deal - It has to be felt, experienced, enjoyed till it lasts and sometimes even let go....

rayshma said...

i totally agree.
in any r'ship, no two ppl can love each other equally.
and taking that as a given, i'd rather the man love me more :D

Solitaire said...

@ Nirmal,

Which man do you want to love you?

Urv said...

I will not. Definitely not. No matter how much he loves me. Why should I? Or rather how could I!
coz I love women.. and I would love to be in love and marry a woman who loves me more than I love her..

Nirmal said...

hey tat was a gals prespective..

heheheh

lukkydivz said...

i believe in those lines

Solitaire said...

@ Nirmal,

Are you a girl trapped in a man's body?

Ashu said...

i wud come back in detail on this, just caught up wid weird shifts :(

Nitin said...

Bakwas .. said by someone who failed to understand relationship..

PS : No offence to anybody .. that my view on this statement...

Ria said...

I feel its a very selfish way of putting it coz i jus dont get it....u marry a person who loves u but then whts the point if u dont love him! He's in for a loss then, i feel whts essential is we shud marry a person who v cant live without...and with whom v dont realise the passing of time. :)

Solitaire said...

@ Ankur,

WHAT!? How and when did you start assuming I am a SHREK that I have to go around telling people that I am not one!

And no! Shreks don't look beautiful. They are ogres!

For number 4, who said that you said that question? I am asking you that question. Uffff!!

Solitaire said...

@ Ria,

It is a mere illusion that we CANNOT live without a person. It may be hard in the beginning but not impossible.

Solitaire said...

@ Nitin,

Accha then why don't you tell us the not bakwaas part for those who want to learn?

Solitaire said...

@ Urv,

ROFL!!

Solitaire said...

@ Aneesh,

I think it would be a nice thing to fight over who loves who more rather than who loves and who does not!

What say?

Solitaire said...

@ Vishesh,

Are all those girls here on Short and Sweet?

Ahem!

Ankur said...

OY... one big technical mishtake... mujhe maaaf kar dena main tujhe Shrek kaha... meri angrezi bahut kamjor hai... mai hindi madhyam ka chatr hoon!!! :(

main kehna chahta tha, Shrink aur typo aur tech mishtake se ho gaya shrek...

is naadan ko maaf kar de yaaa!!! :(

is galti ke liye hum aapse karbadh ( dono haath jodkar) shama ki bhikhsha(bheekh) ki yachna karte hai!!! :(

Solitaire is a Shrink... !!! :)

plzzzzzzzzz

maaf kar dena ki maine aapko shrek kaha aur phir apni galti ko ek baar mai nahi pehchan paya!!! :(

Ankur said...

and now i m sure i need a shrink!!! :-/

Ankur said...

aur plzzz jor jor se hasna bhi mat mere par!!! :(

Nitin said...

I thot ppl r intelligent :)
And u want to know my hard earned experience ( kitne chaapal aur sandal khayee ) for free :(

Solitaire said...

@ Nitin,

I do a lot of therapy for free.

Don't be selfish now.

Tell us.

Nitin said...

/* I do a lot of therapy for free */

thanks for telling that.. do u have any visiting clinic in India ???

Ankur said...

lagta hai sneha ko yakeen ho gaya hai ankur is an idiot!!! :(
isliye no reply!!! :(


koi maafi nahi!!! :(

APOO said...

Sorry, I am not that types... I'll still marry a woman :P

carolinagal said...

First of all, LOL @ the 'Shrek...ooops Shrink' comment from Ankur!!

And now to the main question,
well, if the choice is between marrying a man who loves you more than you love him versus marrying a man who does not love you as much as you love him, then I would much rather go with the first option. Who wants to be in a relationship when the opposite sex does not love you as much as you should be loved??

Neeku said...

Honestly... I think it should be equal... I have had instances ... where the Guys have been head over heels for me... to a point where ..even family was pressurzing ... but If I cannot love him back the way he does... then its not fair for him. Besides I will unhappy too...

In the same way... If I love someone way too much more than he does... then ...it could be possible that the affection can be taken for granted...

It has to be mutual and equal ...

Stupidosaur said...

//Marry a man who loves you more than you love him.

What do men and women have to say about this?

"What do men and women have to say about this?" as in "Log kya kahenge?"

Arrey pyar kiya toh darna kya!

Stupidosaur said...

@solitaire
Marry a man who loves you more than you love him.

Yaani Sol khush.

Then go on increasing your love for him till it overtakes his love for you.

Yaani man bhi khush.

After that have an ever increasing lefelong neck to neck love contest. Dono bhi khush!

P.S: Oh wait why just neck to neck love competition.
You could involve other parts too ;)

Solitaire said...

@ ankur,

Sorry I was busy watching shrek to see wherein lies the similarity.

Solitaire said...

@ maverick,

So you don't mind it that your wife might not love you as much?

CM-Chap said...

Ha Ha...
Yeah only Man can do it.. Vice versa will nvr b true

Solitaire said...

@ Prakhar,

Of course! Without love, the marriage may not be that great...

Solitaire said...

@ D,

Is that what you did?

Solitaire said...

@ Vrij,

I will find out through the love calculator that Alok is going to sell in a few months. Maybe that has a formula on how much weightage should be given to flowers and gifts and what-not.

BTW, why all this advice directed to me!? I did not say that statement! It is a piece of advice that mothers have been giving to their daughters since generations. If you don't believe me, look it up!

Solitaire said...

@ Iceman,

You cannot do that! Or are you still thinking about bras?

Solitaire said...

@ Preeti,

But how do you know that "more" is too much? Maybe your love could be too little, and hence his more could be just right!

rahul said...

I feel this whole notion of love is a bit too over-rated, you spend time someone , get use to them, start liking them the way they are.....and that's it!!!!

Marry someone who hates you :P

Solitaire said...

@ Princess,

This statement is not about loving yourself lesser or more than your partner..it is about the amount of love (for lack of a better word) that you have for each other.

Makes sense?

Solitaire said...

@ Humble,

Stupidosaur has some ideas on how to make it a competition, though!

Solitaire said...

@ Sam,

Is it? I know that people do have qualms about the amount of love.

"Look at so and so boyfriend. He loves her soo much. Why can't you love me that much?"

Solitaire said...

@ Aneesh,

Based on your statement, Soham does not love his wife because he thinks his wife loves him more than he loves her.

Solitaire said...

@ Ceedy,

you might wanna check this out.

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/affection

Affection is synonymous with love. Considering that to be true, your first statement makes no sense because you cannot "mistake" affection for love as both are one and the same.

You say that we should enjoy love until it lasts. How can you gauge that love is gone? Or there is little love left? Is there a measure for that?

Solitaire said...

@ Rayshma,

Now that logic makes perfect sense!

Keshi said...

ok firstly I think I read this qn wrong..lol sorry!

Sol asked this:


**Marry a man who loves you more than you love him.


I was in a hurry yday and read it as


**Marry a man who loves you more than you love YOURSELF


So yeah, my apologies! I will ans the right qn shortly.



But first let me reply to some ppl's comments here that were addressed to me.


Nirmal, I know that MOTHERS love their childres MORE than they love themselves. But in this post, Sol isnt asking abt parents. She's asking abt PARTNERS. Hence that ans from me :)



Sol, to me it wud be suffocating. If there's no LOVE from my side, I'd really find it claustrophobic to be loved by a man that I dont LOVE! Wuts the point of being Married to someone that u dont LOVE?




ty Alok, I agree with u too. If we dun love ourselves fully first, we really cant love someone else. And it isnt abt being sselfish. It's abt appreciating urself before u appreciate others.




Ankur sorry I didnt u'stand wut u said :( plz elaborate. tnxx!




Aneesh hey tnxx HUGZ! :)




Keshi.

aneri_masi said...

this song sums it all up...

Dil usey do, jo jaan de de
Jaan usey do, jo dil de de.

But that's all nice and romantic and hardly realistic.

I'd say don't try to measure it. Just know that the other person loves you, and you love them, and live happily ever after!

aneri_masi said...

@ankur, yeh shrek kahaan se aaya???

Keshi said...

ok here's my ans to the correct qn:


**Marry a man who loves you more than you love him.



To me, a Marriage without LOVE is like a bird without wings. Wuts the point in being married to someone that u dont LOVE as much as he loves u?


Love is something that cannot be measured - it's just there. But if you feel that you don't LOVE him as much as he LOVES u, then there's certainly something not right there. There isn't LOVE there at all. Cos when it's been measured, it's not LOVE.


So wuts the point in being married like that? Just to hv a partner in life? Just to feel secure in life? I SAY NO.



So yeah, thats my ans :)




Keshi.

aneri_masi said...

OMG this whole SHREK thing is so funny! Sneha, I'dve loved to see your face when you read that "this is the first time you're saying you're not one". ROFL :)

Ankur, Shrek movie dekhi hai kya?

ceedy said...

Yes affection is synonymous to love but love (its meaning from the same source) then trancends to passionate desire and one can be affectionate to someone but not necessarily be in love with them...

and I do agree Love in any form more, less or lesser is not measurable as it is a feeling not a tangible entity......but then how do you explain break ups...where that desire to be with someone you were in love with is no longer there?

Solitaire said...

@ Ceedy,

We are not talking about "being in love" here nor are we talking about passionate desire (also known as lust). We are simply talking about love. And you can love your partner without being "in love" with them.

And I am sure that those who break up do not have a love-o-meter that they pull out before doing so. Moreover, not all breakups are due to the lack of love.

For more information about that last sentence, go watch Sex and the City.

Solitaire said...

@ Keshi,

But the question does not say that you do not love the guy..it simply says that the guy loves you more which implies that you do love the guy...just lesser than how he loves you. Would that be suffocating too? Do you think two people can love each other equally?

Solitaire said...

@ Aneri,

Yes, I was totally confused. I wondered why I would be SHREK of all the people!!! Moreover, he thinks SHREKS can be beautiful!

Gainda!

Solitaire said...

@ Aneri,

I know of a person like that.
She is very dependent on her husband, emotionally and otherwise. But she has no qualms or expectations. She is happy knowing that her husband loves her.

Solitaire said...

@ Rahul,

Now why on earth would I want to marry someone who hates me?

Do you think that two people who have simply gotten used to each other or even be tolerating each other without any love between them are happy?

Solitaire said...

@ Cm-Chap,

Are you sure? Soham here says he married someone who loves him more than he loves her.

Solitaire said...

@ Stupid,

How on earth are we supposed to keep increasing our love? Is there a tap that we can turn on and love pours out? And would the heart not burst? Or would I have to get rid of the love I have for other people before doing so?

Solitaire said...

@ Neeku,

At what point would you know its equal?

Solitaire said...

@ Carolinagal,

CORRECTO!

Solitaire said...

@ Apoo,

Suppose you were that type (this is all about hypothetical questions anyway), then what would you do?

Solitaire said...

@ Nitin,

None. You need to spend some $$ and come to the US!

Meanwhile, you still have not shared your experiences!

Solitaire said...

@ Alok,

I have already started promoting your product!

ceedy said...

Even I am not talking about being in love or passionate desire or lust...all I am saying is that love is much more that being simply affectionate....but I guess its not relevant to this question.

And I did not really understand this "And you can love your partner without being "in love" with them."

And yes have watched and know that all break ups are not because of lack of love...you can leave someone whom you love and thats possible too.

Solitaire said...

@ Ceedy,

What about that statement do you not understand?

Do you think that everyone is "in love" with their partner? I beg to differ.

ceedy said...

What is the difference between "in love" and "love"....

I am not arguing here...just did not understand the structure of the sentence....you wrote earlier.

I do agree with you....there are many relationships just there...not necessarily having love...it ones personal choice finally of what one wants....just a companion or someone really close...

I am still iffy about more or less love as I feel that it has to be felt from within to be shared and experienced....not something that has a certain expectation attached to it...but this again is personal...to each

Solitaire said...

@ Ceedy,

In my personal opinion, being in love would include a sexual longing and could also be refered to as infatuation in certain cases which may fade away. That does not necessarily mean that you have stopped loving the person or experiencing a strong emotional attachment to them.

Of course love has to be shared and experienced from within. But sometimes you just know that the love being expressed is more or less than what happens at your end. It could solely be the expression and not the feeling or maybe both.

ceedy said...

Ok - got it....just to add...there can be sexual longing without love too..right?

And to you second part yes...what you say makes sense - so it can be both ways...in a relationship from time to time....so maybe I retract my statement that it should be "equal" cause maybe then it might get boring :)...thnx

Keshi said...

Sol tnxx!



**it simply says that the guy loves you more which implies that you do love the guy...just lesser than how he loves you. Would that be suffocating too? Do you think two people can love each other equally?



can real LOVE be measured? I dun think so. What's MORE and whats LESS when it comes to LOVE? Love is just Love. It cannot be put on a scale and weighed.



Keshi.

Solitaire said...

@ keshi,

Apparenty it can be! People talk like that all the time!

Ankur said...

Happy 100th!!! :D

@Aneri: yeh pata nahi kis avesh ke aveg mai beh gaya mai!!! :D

@Sneha: Gaindaa!!! :(
Sigh!!!!
Mammaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!! :((((((

Ankur said...

@Keshi

I made a typo of callin Sneha a Shrek instead of a Shrink!!!
It was more than typo coz i didnt realize what i wrote and then she asked me how come i am a Shrek.. so i said that u never said before that u rnt !!! :D

btw... Sneha is a cute beauitful intelligent Shrink!!! :D

Rahul.. in the city of dreamz said...

I say.. forget less or love...

Make sure you love the person you marry...

:)

Solitaire said...

@ Ankur,

Bus bus..bahut maska ho gaya!

Ankur said...

Sneha...
sachchi bata ki tune mujhe maaf kar diya na!!! :(

Soham Shah said...

I thought I married a girl who loves me more than I love her !!

I asked her the same question and she said she thought she married a boy who loves her more than she loves him !!

So we both think the same way and we both love each other equally .. not an inch more - not an inch less ..

PERIOD

Solitaire said...

@ Soham,

So how many inches then?

Rakesh said...

understanding is more important than love..

APOO said...

Oh, I would just let the man decide then! :P

Solitaire said...

@ Apoo,

So would you be the woman in the relationship?

Solitaire said...

@ Rakesh,

So you want to remove love from the equation?

Solitaire said...

@ Ankur,

Haan baba kiya!

Gainda!

Solitaire said...

@ Rahul,

Absolutely right..

And make sure they love you too.

No point loving a drunken alcoholic bastard who sleep with another woman and comes home to beat you up right?

Solitaire said...

@ Ceedy,

Yes ceedy. Sexual longing can exist without love. I am sure that not everyone who fantasizes about having sex with Bipasha Basu love her!

Oh and Soham and his wife love each other equally now. Do you think its going to be boring for them?

Nirmal said...

heheh if i m a gal trapped in male body then i guess i must be termed as LESBIAN..

heheheh

Nirmal said...

@ceedy

love and in love..

jail and in jail....


hehehehe

Sam said...

Quantifing love is stupid!!

Keshi said...

Exactly wut I said above! @Sam.

U cant measure LOVE. If u did, then it's not LOVE!


Keshi.

Ankur said...

@Keshi

yes yes..
i need a girl..
i will pray!!!
hehehe
lolzzzzz

Ankur said...

@Keshi

and i wont pull for it!!! :D
hehehe

Ankur said...

@Keshi

and who will ask...

"Did ya come??"
:P :P
hehehe

Solitaire said...

@ Ankur,

You wrote your comments in the wrong post!

Ankur said...

yes!!! :(
wait lemme correct!!! :D

Aneesh said...

@sol

And what would be the result of that fight?

vishesh said...

no they aren't :) you are all elder to me na by what at least 4-5 years? Anuties :D

AmitL said...

ROFL...
Sol,I'm curious-who are 'they',in this case? But,seriously,I don't think it matters..coz,as the relationship progesses,it's the level of trust that becomes prevalent,and,love continues to grow/reduce/remain,depending on the trust level!:)

Personally,I do wonder-would I appreciate a partner who was obsessed to the point of paranoia,a la,Pooja Bhatt in one of Mahesh Bhatt's movies? Probably not!

ceedy said...

Refering to Sohams comment on Calm I think he will thrive in Equilibrium....and it definatly might not be boring for him and his wife!

Stupidosaur said...

sam said
Quantifing love is stupid!!
But this is one case where maths rule "If A is B then B is A" fails

Because even though

Quantifying love is Stupid,

Stupid is not Quantifying love.
(Sol is, through her question)

Stupid answered under the assumption that sol's assumption is true.

And if love quantifyable,

then before meeting her man, sol had 0 love for him.
Then the situation became
0 (less than) sol's love (less than) man's love.
And sol started wondering whether to marry him or not.
(I couldn't use the actual sign of (less than) cos stupid blogspot says its a HTML tag, not allowed)

So sol, if your love for him increased from zero to some non zero value, it means love can somehow increase. You are the best judge how to increase it.

And about the heart breaking part,

Think of your heart as a glass sphere, filled with love.

(Shisha ho ya dil ho....wala!)

Inside it is your love for your man and other people.
Outside it is other people's love for you.

Before meeting your man, the difference between your love for others and their love for you was kinda matched, except for slight differnce that could be tolerted by the strenght of your glass heart. So your heart was fine and things were in stable equilibrium.

Then love for him also grew in your heart, and this was balanced by his love for you. So heart still intact.

(Mind you, the difference between the love of two persons can only be as much as either of their heart's strenghts permits. If it exceeds, on of the hearts will break. So don't marry if you love the guy too less than he loves you ;) )

And as your loves for each other grow neck to neck (etc) they will balance each other out and no additional pressure will be there on the hearts.

Actually this is a very widely applicable theory.

If one person loves some person too much and its not reciprocated, one day the person's heart breaks and he/she comes running to sol for counselling

On the other hand, if one person has become cold and unloving, his heart too will break feeling all 'empty' and vaccum, cos outside of it, people still had normal 'love pressures' for the person.
Sol gets richer again!

And writing such insane thesis, I am soon going to need counselling.
Sol I'm coming!

Keshi said...

lol Ankur wrong place for pulling n praying!

Keshi.

g-man said...

ummm...love has degrees? i didn't know that!

Solitaire said...

@ G-man,

Apparently, inches too!

Solitaire said...

@ Stupid,

Mind if I make this thesis like comment a post on Warm Fuzzies?

Solitaire said...

@ Amit,

Paranoia kaha se aa gaya?

Solitaire said...

@ Ceedy,

Soham is actually counting inches.

Solitaire said...

@ Vishesh,

Is it? Are you ten years old?

Solitaire said...

@ Aneesh,

Tears of happiness.....

Stupidosaur said...

Yeah go ahead but do attribute it, with maybe link to my blog.
Pichhle story ka alternative ending many people thought was yours. Not a big deal, but does kinda feel odd inside.

And maybe I'll also put it as a post. And link to this post for stating the 'source of inspiration' for the thesis.

yaeecks veens is here said...

hoping love is there :)

Rakesh said...

please read carefully i told understanding is more significant variable as compare to love..D

AmitL said...

LOL...Sol,I said love to the point of paranoia..don't you remember that movie?She was willing to kill for her guy..:)

Jeevan said...

It’s just a thought to say. Without we love, how could that relation can be understood?

Raghu Iyer said...

Marry a man who loves you more than you love him.

"so that you can love others more than you love him"

enchanted illusionz said...

is dis a closed discussion, hope not.did read thru some of the comments & well..cldnt help typin n my views too. well...i second keshi & alok. i mean hw on earth do u luv som1 more tan u luv urself...de idea is sweet, a sweet illusion! only makes thngs very heroic , i ll die for you , i ll do dat 4 you & blah blah. but y is it dat v wnt 2 do dat sumthn 4 dat spec person. u don do it 4 evry tom dick or harry , u do it coz it makes you hAppy , u luv 2 luv , u lov to care , & by u i mean , u & me & yeah u & u too..
y is it dat love dies aftr som time ..if it really ws meant 4 de oter person , somthng purely selfless as u wld wnt 2 call , u did it just fade away aftr 10 yrs or 2 yrs , wldnt it stay , coz u knw de oter needs u .or when der r times dat u knw de oter doesnt need you , if luv is truly selfless , dat it wld stop being a bother 2 de reciever. but hw often does luv act dat way. v luv soley coz v NEED TO LOVE , in most cases , v hv no control on dat need of urs & when v find som1 whom v trust not 2 break our hearts , c again v look 4 our own safety , v fall n luv ..mayb u can cover up dis part & make it all fairy tailish , but the point is SELF LOVE IS THE FIRST & LAST LOVE. you may be willing to die 4 ur love , may u wld rather die 4 ur luv tan see his or her death or unhappiness...but y ..coz YOU cant bear the thought of thier pain. so basically its all coz of you or rather me. but i aint sayin ders anythn wrong wit dis . hw can u love if u don hv a self ..selfless luv is a myth !
btwn hw on earth do u knw who luvs who de most , i guess our kids wld hv 2 memorise yet another invention ...love calculator was invented by ...hugh einstein! lol!

enchanted illusionz said...

or shld it hv been alok einstien uh